Living in a modern daily life, people have to face with rapid changes of everything from the tax scale to climate changes. Some people are easy to cope with those alternatives while many of them find it hard to manage those difficulties. The truth is that as days gone by, being hard to handle life is one of the reasons that lead people to the feeling of lower self-esteem. The more they find helpless with their life the more out of control the get. And for the long term, either consciously or unconsciously, they desperately look for and stick to the ways that seem to make their life easier. In this article, I will point out some thinking paths that low self-esteem people usually have and how they can overcome it to reclaim themselves.
They think that they don’t have enough luck to do things that others can do.
To some extents, telling they don’t have enough luck is kind of true. Life is essentially not equal for everyone. However, to some other extents, it looks like a blame they put on others, on situation and society. It’s nonsense to say you can’t have a good job because your father isn’t rich, he doesn’t own a property factory. Almost all people don’t have a father who has his own business. I myself have a father who is working hard on his farm every day to make a living for his family. I’ve never ever thought about my bad luck. I have a happy family and needed supports to grow up and have a good job as a writer. I know for sure that luck only comes to those who are ready for it.
Unfortunately, low self-esteem people usually feel right about their feelings and see no problem with them. As a result, they are easy to recluse into a corner and think about their bad luck which may be some limits and shortcomings for a short term.
They think that they are not capable of doing “such a huge job”.
Low self-esteem people think about themselves as inferior in almost any situation. Every small task that they have never done before turns out to be a hard and huge job. Even before stepping into the task, they think they don’t have enough skills and ability to complete it which eventually drags down their true retentive capacity. To handle those bad feeling, first of all, think about tasks that you can do well and focus on that. Every human soul has weaknesses. Nobody is perfect, neither you. Therefore, don’t seek for perfection lest you will end up with frustrating and inferior feeling.
Also, never compare yourself with others. Saying that, when looking around, you will see so many people are doing more spectacular jobs than you. Comparing inevitably brings you nothing but the weak and inferior feeling. Everyone is unique and the trick is to find out what your strength is and focus on it.
They believe in the new way of self-esteem recognition which is social appreciation.
The prominent of using the social network is undeniable and on the rise. All most everyone has one or more social accounts, such as Facebook, Twitter, etc. to connect with not only friends and acquaintance but also strangers from around the world. The world has become smaller and flatter by that. They want to appear and show up and become a particular part of the online world, which is quite dangerous.
Like any drug, using social network starts off seeming like something fun and harmless. However, in time, people become caught in a cycle of continuously needing positive feedbacks which are likes and shares on their posts. Missing of likes and shares leads them to feeling of missing something important.
The truth is that most of the people who stick to and stay online all the time are very low self-esteem and they usually have boring routines. What they seek for is not a real favorable recognition but virtual compliments. Their mobile devices keep their attention and even holds their hostage. Some of them have been warned by their friends about its danger. The have to know this, needing constant likes and shares is a symptom of low self-esteem so as to escape the vicious cycle that is blinding them.
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